"Because We Don't Talk About It...."

"Because I've Never Been Asked" 

Being new in this journey, and learning how to tell this story, I've heard from others, the most amazing testimonies and real-life accounts.   More than not, the sharer of information will say to me, “I don't talk about this, but because you asked, I'm going to tell you”.  

I'm blown away, that these victims, keep their pain to themselves.  

I had the pleasure of working with a lady, for three days.  She asked what kind of music I was writing.  Told her I was working on a project with my son, about…

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"That's My Guitar", words & music by Kevin Aldridge & Penny Menze (c)2022 


“That’s My Guitar”. Another song for the upcoming album. This song is very special, as it was a birthday gift, written by my son. For many years, Kevin had a love/hate relationship with my music. From the time he was 5 years old, I worked two jobs. A day job and playing in bands 2-4 nights per week. Recently, before the crash, I gave Kevin a guitar, that I made a living with…I had Merle Haggard sign it years ago, for my son, because Kevin loved Merle… and it’s our families that pay for our music. Music…

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"You will either die, or you will go to prison" 

While visiting Kevin, I asked him a question….  “What would you tell someone, stuck in addiction”?   He said, “There's two things that will happen, you will either die, or you will go to prison”.   

Sifting through all this, Kevin is reflecting and writing.  He's currently writing a book, describing how he got to prison, and the lives he affected.  

First is a decision.  The choice to choose.  The help is there, if you make the choice to stop. 

Most times it's not as easy as “addiction”…. there are underlying…

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"Because I Care" 

"Cracked, Not Broken", The Kevin Hines story.  

Looking for groups, in the area, where I can share my son and I's upcoming album, and his story..... I ran across speaker, Kevin Hines. This gentleman tried to commit suicide 15 years ago. He jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge.  He survived.  Not many have.  Now it is his life mission to cherish every day and help others cope, and make that daily decision.  Hines has written a book about his story and is now a speaker and advocate.  

He shares how when he let…

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Offering Comfort (The Daily OM Publication) 

By Penny:  Here's something that was emailed to me today from "The Daily OM" ........"Offering Comfort......... When offering comfort to somebody, their only real need is to have you be in the present moment with them. Sometimes it is difficult to see someone we love struggling, in pain, or hurting.  What is truly comforting for another is not having someone try to fix them or their problems, but to just be there for them. Should we begin to feel the urge arise to offer advice or repair a situation. Even…

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"Do you have someone to talk to?" 

By Penny (Kevin's Mom):  I was asked today, "Do you have someone to talk to?". I said "no... no one wants to hear about this .. It's an unacceptable tragedy.... so I'm going to do the only thing I know to do... I'm going to write and sing about it". It's the only way I know how "to talk about it". My son describes what happened on the "Intro" page of this website. It was a vehicular homicide. With no way to contact the victim's family, and no way to know how to navigate this horrific tragedy for himself and…

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